WKU counselor: Work through your grief

Published 9:24 am Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Hospital officials in Orlando, Fla., are “very optimistic” about the recovery of victims of a mass shooting that claimed the lives of 49 people, according to The Associated Press. But the massacre has left other wounds across the country, sparking grief and debate.

Karl Laves, associate director of Western Kentucky University’s Counseling and Testing Center, said WKU plans to send a mass email to all students “reminding them that our center is open” to anyone who needs to talk.

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Laves, who is a licensed counseling psychologist, said he was shocked when he heard about the deadliest mass shooting in modern U.S. history. “As I heard the numbers, it just became more surreal,” he said. 

In the wake of the tragedy, Laves encouraged others to acknowledge and work through their emotions. Instead of shutting down grief, he said, it’s best to let it run its course.

Despite the tragedy, Laves said seeing a counselor isn’t necessary unless grief is too extreme. Laves also encouraged people to attend local vigils at churches.

“If i’m just home by myself … I don’t get the sense that something could be done,” he said.

Laves also urged doing volunteer work or doing anything to “make this world a little more kind, a little more sensitive.”

Bill Pfohl, a licensed psychologist and retired WKU professor, said grief takes many forms, from anger to sadness. But people can find solace with the support of others, he said.

Following the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks, Pfohl led a community forum for people to find reassurance. “Social support is critical for healing,” he said. 

Pfohl also encouraged people to do things they enjoy and take a break from the news.

“One of the things I always encourage people to do during these tragic times is don’t forget to take care of yourself,” he said.

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